Tips for being the best friend ever:

what not to do (ii)
Most people say that girls can never be best friends without drama.

In my opinion, this is an unfair generalization. Everyone has drama, irrespective of gender. That notwithstanding, there are certain things you can refrain from so that you and your friend don’t get tagged as ‘typical women’, whatever that means.

1. Say ‘no’ to gossip

If you don’t like it, say to your friend’s face. If someone else comes to you with gossip about your friend, let the trail end with you.

2. Don’t act like it is a competition

It is okay to be ambitious or to be inspired by your friend to be better, but mind you, I said ‘inspire’. Therefore, don’t go off trying to be better than your friend. Each person has a race to run, don’t switch your lane into your friend’s own.

3. Don’t be part of her fan club

Being friend means that you are really there for her in real life and not only on social media. I liken this to being part of a fan club because fans only hit the like button on social media and then forget all about the celebrity until the next big gist comes out. Show up and be part of your friend’s life.

4. Don’t be too critical

Remember that you two are different and that means you may think she is messing up in some way. Don’t be on her case all the time. Instead, allow her to make her mistakes sometimes. She will learn better that way. So, choose your battles with her wisely.

5. Don’t blow them off

You may have plans with your man but don’t just blow her off without a proper explanation or with lies. Honesty is always the best policy.

6. Don’t be excessive

People have different ways of showing love. If she is not into mushy stuff then just do you and don’t compel her to be like that.

In the end, keep it real and you two will be the best friends everyone loves.